3. Guard Your Guard
The third step of the journey is to open the gate to your highest potential by overcoming Doe-chi.
Commentary
In Korean, “Doe Chi”, means “being drunk one’s own ideas” It’s believing your own momentary beliefs or feelings are the only relevant belief or feelings. Doe Chi will henceforth be referred to as “your truth”.
Your Truth is the grand enemy of principle, the adversary of reality.
Your Truth obscures the vision of the reality.
Likes and dislikes change with the moment, principles never change.
Life is a challenge for power. Power is strength. Without strength, you will have no power, Without power you will have no freedom. Without freedom, there is no peace
"Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face"
- Mike Tyson
The plan is Your Truth, a delusion based on what you think you know or what you hope to be. As soon as you get punched in the face there is no “Your Truth”, there is only reality.
Marriages, for example, are often a sobering punch to the face. A man or a woman believes another man or woman will "complete" them. The state of euphoria surrounding marriage, amplified by the series of celebratory events blinds us to reality. This is a voice of Your Truth; believing that your reality, your happiness is dependent on another person. Depending on other to do something for you can lead only to resentment.
"The Honeymoon Phase" is often used as a warning, and for good reason.
The opposite of Your Truth is sobriety. Sobriety is identifying with the constant.
Believing someone or something outside of yourself is the answer is Your Truth.
Believing that someone of something outside of you owes you something is Your Truth.
Reliance on others and entitlement are Your Truth.
Your Truth creates a false sense of power by intoxicating and trapping you in delusion.
Break the delusion by identifying with the constant and fighting to view reality from a state of sobriety.
Nobody is going to save you, you must do the work to save yourself. You must fight to stay on the earned path.
You are not owed anything by anybody or anything, earn what you seek.
If you cannot do it, you are not it. You might know it, you are do not have it.
The unhealthy person lecturing others on health is drunk on Your Truth. The business coach that can’y run their own business is drunk on Your Truth. The single friend or family member giving advice on marriage is drunk on Your Truth.
Your Truth lives in the delusion that you are what you know.
The Six Voices of Your Truth:
Look around. On all sides, there is evidence of Your Truth. Few humans are making decisions in a state of sobriety. They are not guided by principles, but rather their momentary, fleeting feelings of truth. These ever-changing guides are the enemy of principle and the adversary to Correct. Many humans today are stuck. They are stuck today and when tomorrow comes they will be lost. Like the leaves of a tree, they sway with every gust of wind; every headline, every impulse, and every outside influence. They have not rooted their decisions in principles. Consequently, they have no power or peace. While Your Truth has many voices, these are the six most common in today’s world:
1. Stuck on “True”
You’re at a mastermind with your business friends. You've just hired an assistant. Your friend just hired a nanny. Another friend chose not to hire anyone new. Your friend says to you “Why did you hire a nanny? Your first hire should be an assistant." This is a voice of Your Truth.
Everyone has discovered their own preference for handling their business. The friend that believes his truth is the only truth is drunk on, or poisoned by, Your Truth.
Very few understand that another person’s preference may be different than their own. Quite often, one individual tries to compel others to accept his or her version of "True". This might be the best course of action for one individual, but that does not make it the best Correct action for everyone else. “You must see it my way” has caused an endless array of violence and war throughout history.
Everyone discovers True, but very few discover Correct.
To spot someone stuck in True, listen for the the word “should”.
"Others should see it my way" is a voice of Your Truth.
2. Stuck on “Right”
Many insist that their way of doing things is the Right way. Often, they insist it’s the only way. Have you ever seen someone drive, relentlessly, toward a goal and leave their family alone, broken, or neglected? They say “This is the Right thing to do for my family” while shortening their own lives and neglecting the family.
Blindly believing there is one Right way or “proving myself at all costs” is the voice of Your Truth. Those that are stuck on Right and proving they are Right are stubborn and selfish.
To spot someone stuck on Right, discern whether they are more concerned with being validate or being useful. Right is concerned with validity, the Correct is concerned with utility.
Believe there is only one right way is being drunk on Your Truth.
3. Stuck on Not Knowing
Many do not understand the principle of True/Right/Correct and do not wish to understand it. Many don’t know what they don’t know and are stuck in the passive mode of ignorance. Without a compass, we have no choice but to accept the opinions of others. We let others give us labels and shape our behaviors.
Those that are stuck on not knowing are stuck in victimhood. They say “they told me to do it”. This breeds weakness.
“They told me to do it” is the voice of Your Truth.
4. Stuck on Blaming Others
A father returns home from work and denies his wife's request to help her with the children. “You don't understand how difficult my day has been,” he says “I need to relax and watch TV. I am right, you are wrong”.
Again, the voice of Your Truth. Anytime someone says “You don’t understand how I feel” you are very likely hearing the voice of Your Truth- the voice that leads to loneliness.
“It’s your fault” destroys harmony and peace. It’s another voice of Your Truth
5. Stuck on Failure
“I have tried so hard but can’t change”
Your Truth tries to silence the Gray Wolf principle: “You can change your own reality”.
If you have money problems, you created them and you can change them. If you have relationship problems, you created them and you can change them. You can achieve your best self by tapping into the root of genuine power by traveling the Gray Wolf pathway.
"I tried but I can't...." is the voice of Your Truth
6. Stuck on Self Pride
“Stop judging me”.
Your Truth strikes again. Your Truth rejects all criticism and all suggestions. This makes it immune to true love and true friendship. Your Truth has its ears plugged with self-pride, eyes blinded by self-deception, and heart hardened by egotism.
Very few like it when a mirror is held up to them. It threatens the delusion they have about who and what they are - or are not. Self-pride will refuse to acknowledge reality that conflicts with the delusion.
Protecting your own delusion is Your Truth.
Three Ways to Silence Doe Chi
1. See The Invisible
The visible is the obvious; momentary likes and dislikes, the tip of iceberg, above the surface. The leaves of the tree thay sway with the wind are the visible.
The invisible is what is below the surface, the roots. To see the invisible is to focus on unchanging principles. If you know yourself and you focus on principles, you open what is called “the invisible eye”. The invisible eye sees the enduring, unchanging, and timeless principles. It is unmoved by the whims of the moment. Use mastery of principles to acquire power and lasting harmony.
2. Cultivate Genuine Friendship
Stop being nice, stop seeking nice. A genuine friend will level with you. When you are drunk on Your Truth, they will bring you back to reality. Genuine friendship is not built on Your Truth, but on reality. Genuine friends prevent your from falling into a Your Truth loop. False friends encourage Your Truth - as long as it’s not threatening to theirs.
A genuine friend tempers your mind again and again until it is powerful. True friends will be the first to point out negative qualities to help you grow. This is the principle of friendship; seek constructive criticism and consider it an act of love.
True friendship is built on loyalty, loyalty is a principle. It never changes. In business, they may teach you to say nine things you did right before pointing out one thing you did wrong. That is not true friendship. True friendship is pointing out nine things you did wrong and one thing you did right.
True friendship is built not on being nice, but being respectful.
Do not expect grand gestures of approval from a spouse or friends. Do not look for flowery compliments. Genuine friends show approval in subtle and quiet ways; a subtle nod, or a special look. The noisy and the boisterous is the voice of Your Truth. Genuine friends do not develop Your Truth, but rather a deep and silent power.
A clan or community, seeded in similar values is important. You need them to protect you from yourself because you don't know what you don't know. You can't always see yourself, you need people that will hold a mirror to get you back into a state of sobriety.
You can’t read the label from inside the bottle. Only a true friend will be honest with you about the it says.
3. Moving meditation
Moving meditation clears out false thoughts that create Your Truth. When you're trying to sit in peace, your organs hold emotions - memories of things that have happened in the past. You are worried about something that is not happening in the present. Moving meditation clears out this cellular waste. Seventy percent of this waste is cleared through exhalation. Learning to breathe properly during moving mediation will enhaance the benefits.
Moving meditation teaches you to look at yourself - not just your physical form, but everything inside of you. It creates a mirror of the inner self. When you learn to look into that mirror, you will find answers that will change you.
Commentary:
The Gray Wolf way is to stay true to self. When you are true to self, you can maintain a state of sobriety and see the function over the form.
Function Over Form:
Many people start a mission with a goal in mind. Spending more time with their family, as an example. What they want is more time with their family - this is the function.
They decide that if their business made more money, they would have more free time for their family. So they start growing their revenues. Growing their business is the form; the thing they think will get them what they want most.
Too often, people forget the function and focus on the form. They are working so hard to grow their business they never spend time with their family. Your Truth gets stuck on form, preventing you from achieving your real goals.
If you are in the middle of this book or on the Master's Path journey we might ask you:
“Are you committed to being loyal?”
If you say yes, we will then ask:
"what are you loyal to?"
You might say something like:
"I am loyal to this book" or "I am loyal to my teachers" or "I am loyal to the Gray Wolf Method."
This is the voice Your Truth.
This book, your teachers and the methods are all “form”. The function is your personal mission.
Your loyalty should be to your personal mission; the cultivation and transformation you seek.
Loyal to the method? No.
Loyal to the objective? Absolutely.
We stay on this path because we are loyal to ourselves and this is the best path to get us to where we want to go. Not because of the path itself.
Your Truth will cling onto things that no longer serve you. If your objective is to get to the top of the mountain, stay loyal to that objective, not the path. If a more efficient, proven path reveals itself - take that path.
Another way to silence Your Truth is to stay loyal to the function, not the form.
Guard Your Guard
Fight to maintain sobriety.
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